4.23.2021

Our Story: The Proposal ♡

 


SO I AM ENGAGED!!!

If you didn't know I was dating, read here to see how we met. 

But now back to this magical day, still feels like a dream.

I have been working remote for the past year because of Covid. And have been lucky to work from wherever including in Florida with my family. 

I thought since the world is "opening up" again that I would be working from the office next month in May therefore April was my last chance to work from Florida and it was going to be the weeks that Mark, was going to be on call so super busy and we weren't planning on seeing each other (we are long distance but would fly to each other on the weekends.)

So I booked my flight for two weeks, my sister who lives in Boston also came along with her baby for the first time since COVID. 

Now that all the sisters were in town (we are three girls) we planned a beach front vacation for my dad's birthday. And while being at the beach we were planning on taking family photos.

So the week leading up to the beach weekend, we all went shopping to buy outfits for the "pictures" and we did our nails. 

Then the weekend came and we left for the beach. It took us forever since it was Spring Break lots of bumper to bumper traffic. 

But we made it and then it started to rain but very heavy since a storm was coming. We had to stay indoors to let it go by. 

That same day we were suppose to take family photos and go to my dad's birthday dinner. So we started to get ready even though it was pouring still. 

I was ready first so I started to dance with my two little nieces and then my sister said...

IT'S TIME TO TAKE PICTURES...

We all go down to the beach, my brother-in-law said "we can take them here by the hammocks" and I went to touch them and they were soaked ---I think he was just setting up the area to where MARK would be. 

And just like that when I was finishing saying "it's wet", my niece yells "LOOK, LOOK" I turn around and it's him walking out of the trees with a small blue box in his hands. 

And I just manage to say "NOO WAY," BUT even today I know the feeling I had. I was so surprised. So shocked he was there. I felt like I was in a literal dream. Like I felt I was still upstairs napping or something. 

Like is this real life?? He did such a great job involving my family (he also asked my dad before hand too) and keeping it a secret. I had NO IDEA WHATSOEVER that he was coming or that he was going to propose. 

We had even talked all week about his busy work schedule. So in that moment it just feel so surreal but so sweet and beautiful. 

The storm also had stopped. He even ran like over a mile (physically instead of waiting in traffic in the car) to make it for the most beautiful sunset at the beach—it was perfect.

I could of never imagined a better way for him to do it or a better man. Best day ever!



OUR STORY: How We Met ♡




Answering our top question: How did we met?

But first of all thank so much for all the kindness and sweet messages about the engagement means the world to me🤍

Here’s the condensed version of the story, feel free to ask questions. 

We didn’t match by swiping left or right on each other...

BUT we were matched by using professional matchmakers. I didn’t want to give it a try at first, I thought it sounded too gimmicky or even something written for the movies or reality T.V. But my friend who had seen the billboard told me to “apply," at this point she was in a serious relationship so she figured it would be fun for me to try or at least fun enough for a blog post. So she insisted and I convinced myself...why not if I had tried apps, dating sites, blind dates and everything else in between...

So in summary it was not a traditional way to match nor was the “process” but I know it was meant to be and for many reasons I’ll share later it was the perfect way for me and perfect timing.🤍


THE PROCESS (My Perspective)
 Two years ago I created my initial profile that was added to the "Little Black Book." I submitted pictures, a bio and answered questions. All information shared was kept private, only to be used in matching. 

Then once my profile was accepted I became eligible to be matched with one of their active "clients."
Joining is FREE. I did not pay for any of the process on my end. 

I went out with one of their clients for the first time the year I assigned up. It was a nice date, great guy but no spark to develop a future relationship. 

Fast forward to COVID summer while I was living in Florida because of remote work, I got a call from the matchmakers --the same week I had bought a flight back to Utah after almost 7 months because I was in the middle of buying my first home and needed to go see it (I had only seen it online). 

To my surprise this time I was communicating with the lovely owner of the matchmakers agency. She said I had been kindly recommended after her staff had met me last time I was set up. She was excited to chat because of my job, I am a Product Manager for my day job. In her past life she was a recruiter for PMs which made our chat easy and great. Then at the end of our conversation she said she had someone in mind for me who was super kind. 

I was very excited they had thought of me again but I did not think much would come of it because it did not the last time and I was already excited to go on some dates with guys I had been Facetime dating over the summer. But my sister had a good feeling about this one. So I said yes. 

They sent me a picture to see if I was attracted to him and of course I was. The first week he started to go on dates I was already going on dates with the summer guys but then I met him the second weekend rounds of dates which was my first weekend back to Utah. 

AND it was an amazing first date. I was shocked it went so well. We chatted for hours and it felt like minutes. I was also surprised because at this point I had become a serial dater haha and nothing came of them but this one was different. I only hoped it was the same for him. 

After the date I got sent a post date survey with questions, ratings, suggestions and overall "performance."

Of course, I scored him high. 

Now unto a little insight on how the process is for the client which in this case was the guy but girls can apply for it too. 

He applied to be the client which is a whole process too, the matchmakers don't take everyone. Even if you can pay the service they vet you first. 

Below is what the VIP MATCHMAKER program includes:
  • They screen all potential matches according to his criteria.
  • Date planning (they make reservations and give ideas)
  • Weekly strategy after date calls
  • Dating Coach (who was a previous marriage therapist)
  • Professional photoshoot
  • Image consulting 
  • Real-time dating advice 
  • Access to extensive online learning system
A two month minimum is required, which is what he did. 

So for the first 2 months he was meeting many girls from the match service. They taught him not to "pick" a girl too fast even if he had a favorite. For example on week 3 he wanted to invite me on a family trip but he was advised not to because it was too early in our relationship and he still needed to go through the process of many more first dates, some second dates and third dates. 

Eventually he had less first dates and through the process he kept on going on dates with me. 

Until there were two other girls and me who had gone on multiple dates with him and he wanted to be "pre exclusive with me" so he cut ties with the other two girls and was still going on some first dates with new girls until we became exclusive (boyfriend/girlfriend). 

At that point I had taken the "risk" of ending all my other dating relationships even if I knew I was still in the process but I was ready to only date him. He then told me that he had stopped taking out the others girls like a month before we became exclusive. 

And after that our relationship became more like the norm. Lots of fun dates. Lost of traveling since we are long distance and lost of Facetime and long phone calls. But we also had help from the dating coaches --teaching us, and taking us through the stages to strengthen and deepen our connection and love all the way up until now. 

We still do couple sessions with the coach, they have been so amazing in building a secure attachment and lasting love.


SO YEAH... it really does sound like a movie, or reality TV show a la mode the Bachelor but for me it was all very real, it was what was meant to be for me to find my person and I couldn't be happier. 

And now we are engaged!!! That's a whole nother story, I was super surprised--read here(;

Feel free to ask questions.

*Okay everyone is asking who we used? Here is the link to signup:


with love, 
Kris  

























8.16.2020

Another 365-days Around the Sun ♡

Birthday art gifted to me by one of my brother-in-laws.
This painting reflects meaningful moments of my last year of life, written below.


Another 365-day journey around the sun disappeared just like that in a blink of eye --as I celebrated my birthday and what a year it has been. 
A year ago this month I could've not fathomed all the lessons learned, all the memories made, and where the world would be today. 

Let's see how my year went...

AUGUST - One of my best friends got married at the SLC Temple and it was a very special moment to share with her and her family--we have been through a lot in the crazy dating world. Trip to Orlando, Florida to visit family for my niece's 3rd Frozen themed birthday. And a few trips to Disney World (Animal Kingdom and Magic Kingdom).




Trip to Seattle, WA to visit one of my best friends. 1st time visiting the Space Needle and fell in love with the Pike Place Market.


SEPTEMBER
- Lightened my hair for the first time, this was a big deal to me because I was always to afraid to try. My hair is dark again but now I don't have the "what if" and it was fun while it lasted. 

OCTOBER- Went to Florida for Halloween and went to my first Mickey Not So Scary Halloween party at Magic Kingdom. We had two costume themes (Star Wars and Nightmare before Christmas). The girls made Halloween so fun!

NOVEMBER- Fall trip to Florida. Visited New Smyrna Beach, and Epcot's Food and Wine festival for the first time at Disney World. 


Made a work trip to Laie, Hawaii. Visited the Byodo-Temple for the first time (with a friend from near by island). Taught two classes of marketing students at BYU. Went to the Laie Temple. Was a part of the grand opening night of the Light the World Giving Machines

For Thanksgiving I went to Boston for the time to visit my sister and brother-in-law. My flight was delayed in NY for a half the day but we still made it to see Frozen 2. We got all dressed up for our family Thanksgiving Dinner at the roof top of a beautiful fine dining restaurant. Shopped at Newbury Street. Wore pink to visit the Harvard Law School campus. Explored the beautiful underground art and campus of MIT with "backstage VIP access"since my brother-in-law is a grad student there. Had best fresh New England sea food. First snow fall of the year. 


DECEMBER- Started the month attending a special filming of the President of my church playing the piano with a young talented girl. It was so amazing to hear him play and be in his presence. It was so special to feel his spirit, tenderness and love towards people it was almost tangible. 



Trip to Florida for Christmas and New Years, always a blessing to have the opportunity to travel for the holidays since I have no family where I live in UT. And of course while in Florida always fit in a few Disney trips--this time to Magic Kingdom and Epcot. 


JANUARY
- Went the the magical Midway Ice Castles in Utah. Finally paid off some big debt, increased my  savings, rewarded myself for reaching those goals. 

A kind stranger in front of me paid my all my items I was going to buy when I was shopping at the mall, all she said was to pay it forward.  


FEBRUARY- Trip to Florida to celebrate my niece's 1st birthday, lucky to have been able to be at both my nieces celebrations.
And 1st time at Magic Kingdom for after the Super Bowl Disney day.
 
Got very sick once (at this point there wasn't much talk of COVID only in China) I got back to Utah but lucky to have friends to help me. Read about it here.

MARCH- So lucky to have reconnected with one of my best friends from home, we had kept in contact over the years but hadn’t seen each other since like 18 years old. I got to see her often since at the time she had job responsibilities where I live--what are the odds?


BUT then the unimaginable happened...WHO declares COVID-19 is officially a pandemic emergency. Toilette Paper, Hand Sanitizer, Rubbing Alcohol, Disinfecting Wipes and more sold out (click here to see photos of my local empty stores)... First presidency of my Church announces that our gatherings have been temporarily suspended worldwide, Disney closes, Sports get cancelled, school turns virtual, work turns remote, self isolation starts and dating/social life is put on hold. Read here to see how I spent my first month in self-quarantine. 

THEN later on I experience my 1st real earth quake LIKE WHAT?!!? 
WHAT A DAY. Woke up to an 5.7 EARTH QUAKE  here in UTAH. It was one of the most scarcest ways to start the day especially since everyone is already worried by Corona. What are the odds that the last big earth quake in Utah was 30 years ago and the next one was now. I taught it was a dream. My room, bed everything shook and...

Lastly, our family finally received some good happy news in the middle of all that chaos... my first nephew is on the way!! What a blessing in troubled times and thanks to technology we all were able to share a special moment. 

APRIL- I made the scary decision to fly to my family after being alone for a month since work was from home. I traveled with a mask, gloves, didn't sit until on the flight, stayed away from people and wiped all my stuff. I was lucky I flew on an almost empty plane. No one in-front or behind  me for rows on rows and no one on my row across. Once with family I spent two weeks wearing a mask and making sure I was fine from flying which I was. I thought I would stay just a few weeks and celebrate my dad's birthday, Easter while "COVID ended and our lives went back to normal" however that was not the case... at all. 



MAY- Everyone is still social distancing and there is a curfew. Work is still remote so I was still in Florida. Some beaches open while enforcing social distancing. Went to the beach for the first time since being in Florida, it was different, it was empty, and more peaceful than ever. Learned video and opened my YouTube Channel

Then the world stands still to learn about racism. America returns to space with SpaceEx.

JUNE- Everyone is wearing a mask in public places. Food spots start to open and some attractions. We went to Wild Florida, it was extra hot since we had to wear a mask while walking the zoo. We got to spend time with my sister and her husband since they came on a road trip to visit for our 1st family staycation to celebrate my older sisters birthday. 



 JULY- Get to celebrate my first 4th of JULY with family in many years. We go to our favorite isolated  beach. But then the news tells us the second wave of virus cases start to sky rocket (when it was said that would happen but until Fall). Disney opens.

                

AUGUST again - As you see I never returned to my Utah home, currently it's been almost five months. I thought it would only be a few weeks so I brought nothing with me really and since we were all staying home I didn't think I would need more. However now I have bought clothing and other day to day things. And felt so blessed to have had my birthday celebration with my family this year, it has been many years since I did because I chose to travel at the end of the month for my niece's birthday instead. 


So started the year traveling a lot, had unforgettable spiritual experiences, learned new skills (video), reconnected with family and friends, lived with my parents again and slowed down. 

And that's how my 365 days around the sun went for me this year. 


Here are some of my birthday celebration photos:

















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